Expert-backed tips that will make you say, â€œTGIM!â€
Mondays will never be Fridays. Thereâ€™s not enough coffee in the world that can change the fact that thereâ€™s no work-free weekend on the horizon.
However, you can make Mondays a whole lot better by making a few small changes.
â€œOur thoughts determine our reality,â€ explains Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., a Manhattan-based therapist. â€œUnfortunately, we’ve been trained by the world around us to think of Mondays with dread instead of promise.â€
Use these seven simple tips to change your start-of-the-week approach, and you may find yourself excited for Mondays. Donâ€™t forget the coffee, though.
1. Plan Something Fun
â€œMost people hate Mondays so much because they equate it with being the farthest day away from fun,â€ Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., author of Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love.
Schedule something youâ€™d usually save until the weekendâ€”like lunch with an old friend, happy hour with some coworkers, or a mini-marathon of House of Cardsâ€”for Monday instead. That way, you have something fun to look forward to when your alarm goes off that morning.
2. Book a Date Night
Itâ€™s easier (no long waits for a table) and cheaper (no cover) to take your wife or girlfriend out on a Monday night.
And even though itâ€™s Monday, donâ€™t be afraid to try something unconventional together. Take an art class or try a new workout class at the gym. Couples who engage in a novel activity together report much more martial satisfaction than couples who have â€œpleasantâ€ or same-old dates, according to researchers at Stony Brook University and UC Berkeley.
3. Have Sex
â€œResearch shows that most people wait until the weekend for a friendly romp,â€ says Lombardo.
But thatâ€™s a mistake: Sex releases anxiety, lowers stress hormones, and can help people cope with mental pressure for at least a week, according to a study from the University of West Scotland. That means sex on Monday automatically makes every other workday more blissful.
4. Break a Sweat
Itâ€™ll take some willpower on a Monday morning, but getting up early to work out can give you a quick pick-me-up. Just 15 minutes of exercise can make you feel more energetic and less fatigued, according to a Stanford University study.
To get even more mood-boosting benefits, take your workout outside. The sunlight can stimulate the release of feel-good neutrotransmitters.
5. Explore Other Gigs
Mondays are tough on the average guy. But if you hate your job, youâ€™ll absolutely dread them.
If that sounds like you, take Hokemeyers advice: At the start of the week, write down three things youâ€™ll complete for your job search. Maybe itâ€™s updating your resume, reaching out to new connections on LinkedIn, or browsing job openings.
â€œThere is incredible joy in taking concrete steps to change your life,â€ Hokemeyer says.
6. Download a Relaxation App
Mondays come with the promise of an overflowing email inbox, meetings, and deadlines. Prepare yourself for the stress with meditation tools.
Employees who use relaxation apps throughout the day reported lower levels of stress than those who tried to relax without technology, found a ColumbiaUniversity study.
7. Fake It
If all else fails, fake it until you make it.
Researchers call this strategy â€œself-perception theory,â€ and it really works. Our actions determine our perceptions about ourselves, including how we think and feel.
For instance, in one Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatrystudy, when people walked with a happier gaitâ€”with their head and chest held high, and their arms swingingâ€”they immediately reported being happier. So pretend you love Monday and you might just end up really loving it.
Source by menshealth